SPIRITUAL MARRIAGE

by Dr. Lawrence Wilson

© January 2015, L.D. Wilson Consultants, Inc.

           

All information in this article is for educational purposes only.  It is not for the diagnosis, treatment, prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.

 

Most of this article is based on the ideas of Mr. Roy Masters of the Foundation of Human Understanding or www.fhu.com.  Some of the ideas are not popular today, although they used to be well known among the general population. 

 

THE FIRST MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP

 

              According to the bible, at one time a harmonious relation­ship existed between man and woman in the Garden of Eden.  Adam was given responsibility as overseer or keeper of the Garden with Eve his helpmate and companion.  Adam was promised protection and happiness if he followed certain rules that God had set down.

            Problems began when Eve allowed herself to be tempted by the serpent, who represents the lower or seductive force in the world.  Adam, in a moment of weakness, listened to Eve and joined her in eating the forbidden fruit.  In other words, he doubted and disobeyed God and took Eve's advice instead to eat the apple.  Eve was just being used but Adam didn't know this.  When he saw what had happened, Adam turned around and blamed Eve.  God knew what had really occurred and banished them both from the garden.

            God’s admonition was to eat of the tree of life and to avoid the tree of knowledge, "for if you eat of that tree, you shall surely die".  The understanding of this statement is that, by seeking for knowledge, one is seeking to BE God, rather than to be in awe of His wonders (not try to understand them).  The admonition was to live by faith. 

            The ego is not satisfied unless it believes it knows everything and feels in control.  Psychologically, the fall from the Garden of Eden was the rise of the ego and separation from God.  It was also the beginning of incorrect relationships between men and women.  As Adam's progeny, we inherit the type of character flaw that Adam and Eve displayed.  We doubt God's word and instead move toward what our egos desire.

            Although it is beyond the scope of this paper, male and female can be applied to other aspects of society.  For instance, Madison Avenue-style advertising is decidedly 'female' in the manner in which it uses seduction to sell products.  Politicians are generally ‘female’ in seducing people to vote for them with promises and smiles.

 

THE PROPER MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP ACCORDING TO ROY MASTERS, AND THE SEXUAL ORDER

 

            Roy Masters asserts in his books that in an ideal or happy relationship, a truly spiritual man is the head of the household.  Such men are not that common today in general society, unfortunately.  Perhaps for this reason, in part, the idea of the man leading the way is not popular today, but it is practiced in many Christian homes to some extent, at least.  It does not exactly mean that he gives the order and she obeys.  It means that he takes the lead, especially when the couple is in public.  It may also mean that he is more logical, while she can be more emotionally driven, sentimental, and has other qualities that are good in the right context, but can lead to poorer decisions for a family.

            This concept is called the Sexual Order, and is discussed in another article on this website in more detail.  It has nothing to do with who is “better” or more capable.  It has to do with certain biological qualities of men and women that make men a little better at leading, while women are often better at following.

            Women who join with such a man feel constantly loved, safe and secure.  They are happy to go along with the desires of the man in a sexual way, and in other areas of life as well, because they know that all of it is divinely inspired, one might say, because the man is closely connected with his Creator.  This is a repeating, essentially, of the creation story in which man came first before woman.

            Continuing the sequence of energetic relationship, children are then born to the couple and the woman, along with her husband, is able to nourish and nurture the children properly because she has the full support and energetic support of her husband.  This is the ideal Christian marriage, as Roy Masters explains it.

            If a woman is not married, then she becomes the “spiritual man” and leads herself, and perhaps her children as well.  This works, too, and is common today.  It is harder on her, although she may develop in a mental and spiritual way more as a result of having to fulfill two roles, as it were – father and mother.

 

UNHAPPY OR REVERSED MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIPS

 

              In unhappy man-woman relationships, the couple tends to repeat the Adam and Eve story over and over again.  That is, the man separates himself from the will of God or the Creator.  He essentially is tempted by the charms, sexuality, or other qualities of the woman, who does not realize that her charms are not often positive qualities.  They are attractive to men, but they are not her higher nature, if I may use that term.  Her charms are her good looks, her body shape, her intellect or her cleverness, for example.

            As a result, the man falls away from his higher nature and “falls” into the woman’s lower nature or sexual attraction, and while the woman may seem to enjoy it, eventually she becomes angry and resentful because she no longer has a true companion, but rather a weaker somewhat dependent, more animalistic male instead of a godly man in her life.  If they have children, she often will try to “steal love” or obtain the love she needs and wants from her children because she is not getting it from her husband.  This often destroys the selfhood of the children, who should be on the receiving end, not the giving end of the family relationship in this way, at least.

            The children, in turn, realize at a deep level they are being deprived of God’s love or energy and they grow up angry, depleted of a type of life substance, and essentially are victims instead of being full of the Creator’s love from the their parents.  They go on to have their own children in this aberrant way without the love of the Creator.  This perpetuates a cycle of spiritual emptiness or spiritual poverty, in turn creating continuing war, poverty, disease, depression and misery on planet earth through the generations.

            In other words, when the sexual order or proper relationship between man and woman are not maintained, all members of the family project their fear and anger outwards, causing wars, disorder and disharmony at the community, national and international level. 

            This is a brief introduction to the concepts in this article.  By the way, you need not subscribe to these ideas to enjoy and benefit from the mental exercise recommended on this website.  However, if you do the mental exercise, which brings in the godly energy forcefully into the body and mind, you may find yourself suddenly more open to these ideas.

           

THE RETURN TO GRACE AS THE SOLUTION TO RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

 

            Mr. Masters goes on to say that men and women can restore a more healthful relationship if they are among the rare few who are fortunate enough to read and understand this article, or other books that state the same thing, essentially.  They must once again draw sustenance from 'the tree of life', or the creator, rather than from ‘the tree of ego knowledge’.

            Everyone must realize that just pursuing ego desires, which builds pride and puffs up the ego, cuts them off from divine love.  One continues to suffer until the ego and the intellect are once again submerged to their rightful subordinate place, or submitted to God, as some would say. 

 

MOTIVES FOR RELATIONSHIPS

 

            Many people get into relationships for the wrong reasons, and Mr. Masters addresses this consideration, which is an important one.  He often said, “men fall in “love”, while women fall in hate”.  The meaning of this is that men fall away from God, making woman and perhaps sex or ego love into a God.

            In turn, most women actually resent the men's weakness and lack of awareness.  They know that most men know nothing of love.  This leads to hatred of men.  Most women, however, feel guilty about their angry feelings and deny them by going along with the weak men and calling it 'love'.  They derive a certain angry pleasure and joy from being in charge of the weak men in their lives, serving them up a little sex and food, perhaps, in return for a certain type of worship by the men and attention.  This often takes the form of the men giving them money or status or other societal pleasures such as vacations and even children who are then misused to grow the ego of the couple.

            Another general principle of relationships that Mr. Masters would repeat is that “men are looking for the mother they always knew, while women are looking for a father they never knew” (the true love or the Creator).  By this is meant that men are mostly weaklings who are trying to get back to the womb, so to speak, while women are searching for a real godly man, the kind that too often their fathers were not.

            As a result, most relationships begin for the wrong reasons.  Instead of looking for a solid strong man of god, or a lady who will be one’s companion in one’s godly walk, people look for simple companionship, sex, security, good looks, financial support, ego stroking or other egotistical benefits.  There is nothing inherently wrong with these, as long as they are subordinated to high motives.

            As a result of this, many relationships are not between really compatible individuals, and this is one reason for disharmony and divorce.  Of course, the motives can change, and often must change if the relationship is to survive.  One of the most important changes is to learn to love another even if the other does not live up to one’s earlier sexual or other expectations.  This is a maturing process that couples must go through if their relationship is to survive.

 

WHAT IS THE SPIRITUAL PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE?

 

            Mr. Masters asserts that marriage is the setting or battleground where two people can become aware of their hidden motives and other personality and spiritual flaws, and correct them.  Through patience with one another, they can learn to relate correctly and move back toward a 'Garden of Eden' condition.  They can work to find the Creator’s love, instead of lower level sexual, ego-stroking or other lower human types of “love”.

            Becoming aware of one’s own flaws is rarely pleasant, and is particularly upsetting if one resists knowing the truth.  But if one desires the truth about oneself, relationships offer a process of purification which leads to changes and maturity, that in turn leads to happiness.  This is the true early purpose of relationships.

            Once this process has occurred to a certain degree, at least, the marriage becomes a blending of beautiful energies of two souls who then can bear children, uplift others, and in turn uplift and purify their family, their community, and the entire world.  This is the other major spiritual purpose of relationships of all kinds, in fact.  Marriage is just the most intimate of these, but the principle of souls working together for the good, the holy and the beautiful in life applies to all types of relationships in families, in business, in social settings, and even between nations and continents.

 

THE TWO ASPECTS OF LOVE

 

            (This section is not from Roy Masters)  Another critical and confusing issue in relationships and marriage has to do with the two aspects of love.  These two aspects need to be understood clearly.  One is not better than the other, but they are very different.

            Masculine or more yang love.  One is a type of nourishing power or energy and truth, somewhat like the way the sun warms the earth and makes all life grow.  It is hotter, more masculine and more yang in Chinese medical terms.  however, it is not limited to men, by any means.  It is not kissy, huggy or sexy, and it is deeply caring and what may be called competent or informed.  It is sometimes called tough love.

            It is the type of love Jesus demonstrated, with which he did amazing miracles and could transform others.  He admonished, "love others as I have loved you" (in the way I have loved you).

            Feminine or more yin love.  There is also a type of nurturing, more huggy and sexy type of love that one associates more with women, particularly mothers (though it is by no means limited to women).  It is necessary to build up the little egos of babies and children to make sure they grow up strong and confident in themselves.  Jesus of Nazareth certainly also demonstrated this type of love, at times, as it is needed, at times, for most people.

              These two types of love might be compared to the forces of fire and water, or the fiery love of the heavenly father and the nurturing type of love of mother earth provides for us.

              The feminine type of love enables one to grow as an ego being.  It is helpful and needed for children and adults, too.  The masculine aspect of love sears or burns away the ego self, strengthening one's character in the process, so that what emerges is an 'enlightened' or truly spiritual being.  It is more of a 'tough love' in this regard.

            The problem in relationships is that most men and women are fixated to the feminine kind of love, idealized in woman.  This is so because:

 

Š           Some men and women were deprived of the nurturing, more feminine type of love, so they spend their life running after it to find what they missed as children.

Š           It requires some courage, faith, maturity and a healthy self-love to embrace the often more painful second type of love.  Jesus and others acted as role models to encourage us to 'take the journey', but many are not yet willing to do so.

Š           Society today is ego-oriented, with much emphasis on the ego-building type of love.  The prevailing social welfare state value system encourages weakness, dependency and ego-building.  Few today stand up for what they believe.  Compromise is the order of the day.  One is taught to be nice, be politically correct and believe in victims.  Few children are taught the value of rugged independence and standing up for principle no matter what happens.
           
The masculine type of love is less promoted in the media.  In fact, some have been brainwashed into thinking it is not even real, and is just meanness.  For example, this is how many liberals think about the bible and the Ten Commandments – that they are just mean and serve to control and enslave people, especially women.  This is the standard liberal thinking. 

 

            Now let us discuss particular problems for men and for women.

 

FOR MEN - 

The Problem

            Roy Masters says that most men tend to be addicted to women.  They 'love' women like the alcoholic loves alcohol.  It is a form of use and abuse.  They are woman-centered beings and think this is normal or 'just natural' when it is the opposite of normal.  Due to this character flaw, men either:

 

            1. Give too much power to women, looking to women for approval and ego support.  They become wimps, in other words.   OR

            2. They resent their spiritual weakness and become angry beasts - using and abusing women to some degree, at least, in a futile attempt to regain the dignity that they feel women have somehow stolen from them.

 

            In either case, most men use women to relieve their own pain and loneliness.  This is not love and women know it.  Sometimes men know it too, but feel trapped and unsure what to do.  They may react by giving up and withdrawing, or by becoming violent and blaming women for their problems.

 

Where did the problem come from? 

 

1) THE BIBLICAL VIEW OF ORIGINAL SIN.  In the bible story, Adam lost his connection with God.  That was the beginning of problems for both man and woman in the garden of Eden, and continues to this day.

 

2) ANIMAL MAGNETISM (SEX).  Animal magnetism is a desire for or attraction to things of the flesh.  Separated from their Creator, men and women are just 'naturally' and unconsciously attracted in a sexual and fleshy way.  As any aware man or woman knows, much “love” is just sexual attraction.  There is a natural male instinct to 'plant his seed', but this is not love.  Similarly, many women feel they need to have babies, and lure a husband for this reason.  This is not love, either. 

            Since most men and women know no other kind of love, they equate sexual attraction or other ego desires with love.  There is nothing wrong with physical attraction, but one needs to understand it for what it is and is not. 

            Animal magnetism may be expressed as a reproduce-and-die instinct.  It must be overcome by realizing there is another life, the spiritual life, which transcends the physical.  If more men and women experienced “true spiritual love” from their parents, they would know the difference between desire and love.  Since this is rare, almost everyone grows up confused and ignorant about love.

 

3) IMPRINTING.  All men tend to have an identity problem that is not experienced or well understood by women.  Most men were raised by women.  To some degree, at least, almost all are imprinted with their mother’s identity.  In biology, imprinting is a phenomenon found especially in animals.  The way it works is that the first contacts of life exert a powerful influence for the rest of the life of the animal.  In nature, it is no doubt a protective device.  A baby chicken or goat or lion sees and smells and hears its mother as soon as it is born, and learns to follow her to stay safe.

            Since most people are raised more by women, especially early in life, Mr. Masters says that imprinting of men to women is a force that affects men throughout their lives.

            For women, the issues are different as they are imprinted with women, which tends to strengthen their gender identity.  Men are imprinted to the opposite sex, which they do not understand.  They feel a certain insecurity and are drawn to and unduly influenced by women in ways they cannot explain.  Imprinting is real even if men deny it.  It is often confused with love.  Some men hate and resent the attraction and take it out on women through anger, violence, rape or other means.  Most, however, just give in and think it is “love” that makes the world go around, as the saying goes.  NO, it is imprinting in many cases, at least this is one factor in relationships.

            Imprinting probably cannot be totally overcome, but it can be subordinated or submitted to God or to a higher will and higher purposes.

 

4) REGRESSIVE DESIRES BASED ON FEAR.  Without true faith, men and women are emotionally weak.  There is a strong desire to go back to the womb, back to comfort and coddling, back to 'mommy'.  Unlike imprinting, this tendency is based on spiritual weakness, not a biological instinct.  It can be very subtle, and is often reinforced by society in many ways, such as equating wealth and power with having someone 'wait' on you.

            Men often have a conflict over this.  On one hand they want to be independent, but on the other hand they like to be taken care of.  If a man was spoiled by his parents, this problem becomes worse.  The man’s independent spirit was lost or destroyed.  This can create a desire to go back to the womb, but also causes resentment of the loss.  Back to the womb is another way of saying the man wants “mommy” back, and this is a force in some relationships.

 

5. ATTRACTION TO AND DESIRE FOR THE FEMININE ASPECT OF LOVE, often embodied in women.  This important topic was discussed just above this section.

 

6. THE NEED FOR COMPANIONSHIP.  Most people feel a strong need to have a companion, and without one are somewhat lonely.  This is someone to live with, eat dinner with, sleep with, and perhaps do other things with.  While this is okay, it can lead to a desire for a man-woman relationship that is not necessarily healthy, and is often somewhat co-dependent.  The need for a companion skews one’s judgment, often attracting one to the first person who comes along and is willing to have a relationship, whether or not that person is truly compatible with oneself.

            An important and often hidden reason for the need for companionship is to avoid searching within and facing one’s own fears and other emotions.  One’s attention is directed toward the companion most of the time, distracting one from one’s own issues and conflicts.  Being alone brings up these issues and is uncomfortable for most people.

            Another reason for the need for companionship is the feeling of one’s own inadequacy.  If one does not feel loved and worthy, one can at least take comfort that one’s companion thinks enough of you to be in a relationship with you.

            Another reason for the need for companionship is the need for touch.  This is a deep need for many people.  It may stem from a lack of touch as a child, or a need to feel connected in a physical way.  It is beneficial for many people, although it can hold one in a harmful relationship when it would be better to move on.

            A more positive reason for a man to want a companion is simply to have more fun and to share his positive energy.

 

7. EARLY TRAINING AND THE MEDIA.  Boys are often taught to pursue the girls, even to rape them if they really “love“ them, sadly.  This is sick, but it is common in many secular societies, including our own, and sadly even promoted in the media.  This literally ruins many possibly happy relationships because the men are simply misinformed about what women need and want.

 

8. ANATOMY/PHYSIOLOGY.  Men are much more hormone-driven than women in the sexual area.  As many young men know, they want to connect sexually with a lady, even though they haven’t the faintest idea why or what this is about.  The testis are low on the body of the man, compared to the woman, and right near the genital area, which is very sensitive and exposed to the touch.

            This all makes men quite easy to arouse sexually, and sends them searching for a sexual partner quickly and often constantly.  While good to reproduce the species, most men come to associate their sexual feelings as “love”, and the mix up themselves and their women by doing so.  Sex is sex, but it is not love or caring, gentlemen.

 

9. ETHERIC LONGING. This is not part of Roy Masters work.  However, I am told that men are attracted to a frequency in women that is related to the mineral copper.  It is a softness, gentleness, sexy, warm feeling that men actually lack in their beings.  Men are not aware of this attractive force, but it is real and it draws them to women, and often to the wrong ones.  It draws them to the ones that have the most of this etheric energy, and not necessarily to the highest quality women.

 

What are men to do?

 

            Correction begins with understanding the above as clearly as possible.  It usually will take some time for the ideas to sink in.  Men must see they are controlled by forces they cannot see.  In other words, they must give up the illusion they are in control of their desires, and that those desires are 'just natural'.  Men must also see that resentment of the lack of love during childhood is the trauma or shock that separated them from God, or from their center of dignity, early in life.

            Most male children are set up to fail at an early age.  Often their mothers secretly resented their husbands for not being more of a man.  Mothers often unconsciously turn the children against their father, in revenge against the husband.  Some men are won over by their mothers and become 'mamas boys', while others develop fear or hatred toward women as a result of this use and abuse of the children.  One needs to understand this with compassion so that one can forgive parents for whatever transpired during early childhood.

            On a spiritual level, men must transform themselves from ego‑centered or woman-centered male animals into God-centered men, from “man born of woman” to “man reborn of God”.  Roy Masters asserts that to do this, men must have a love affair with God that outshines their affection for any woman.  Otherwise, men compulsively use women for ego satisfaction or sex.  It makes no difference if both partners think it is love.

            In other words, a man must not need a woman for his happiness.  He has to be fulfilled through God's love alone.  If he needs her (spiritually), he cannot love her.  True love has nothing to do with need or 'getting a feeling' from a woman.  If need or 'feelings of love' take precedence, then love becomes a selfish type of love.  It is trying to get something from her, which invariably hurts her.  A man must become conscious of his motives, and in relating to a woman he must learn to protect her from his lower self.  Correct behavior for a man requires discernment that can only come from becoming aware of his behavior.

            Mr. Masters says that his meditation exercise, along with prayer and understanding, is necessary in most cases, and always helpful, to increase this awareness and restore a man’s connection with his higher self or God.  He must see that his wife needs God's love as it flows through him (God's love is the only real love).  If a man is submitting his will to the Higher Will, true love or God's love will come through him.  Many women are so desperate for love that they will accept some 'mixture' or impure version of love.  This does not make it correct for a man to act this way.

            This, in a nutshell, is how Roy Masters understands the dilemma of being a man and seeking a fulfilling relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

            Wait for marriage until age 30 or so.  (This is not from Roy Masters.) Men may be better off to wait until around age 30 to marry.  The reason is that men tend to mature later than most women, and around age 30 or shortly thereafter, many men become clearer about what they want from life.

 

 

FOR WOMEN -

 

            According to Mr. Masters, many women’s problem is they are full of resentment and anger, which deeply motivates them, although they are not very aware of it.  They often relish it, as many of them, at a young age, have been “turned” or “converted” into angry beasts (some would say whores) who learn well how to exploit their bodies and their charms to get what they want in life.

            This rather negative view of many women gets Roy Masters into lots of trouble, by the way.  However, if you listen to him carefully, he states that the real problem is the men, who simply do not love their women correctly, starting at age 1 or earlier.  Women, he said, are man’s companions, and must be loved properly or they develop into angry companions.

 

Where The Problem Comes From.

 

1) THE BIBLICAL EXPLANATION.  According to the bible, Eve was more subject to corrupting forces acting through her than Adam.  Part of the corrupt nature that operates through her is that she can manipulate her man, although it is not her true desire.  This makes her angry in many cases, even if she enjoys controlling and manipulating men with her charms, her body and other ways.

 

2) IMPRINTING.  Women do not imprint to the opposite sex, in general, as most baby girls are cared for by women.  Thus, in some ways, women have less confusion about their identity.  However, in most cases, the identity they bond with is not a healthy one.

            For example, in all women, imprinting strengthens the women's sexual identity.  This can lead to pridefulness, willfulness and thoughts that women should be worshiped.  This flaw makes it more difficult for many women to submit their wills to any higher authority, including God or a spiritual man.

            Many mothers are also secretly angry and resent their husbands.  So the process of becoming angry and resentful may begin the moment a young woman is born. 

            Other problems with imprinting powerfully occur, for example, if the mother is neurotic, for example.  This can be passed on to the child more easily in a woman, perhaps, causing problems later in life.

 

3) ANIMAL MAGNETISM.  Women are influenced by the reproduce-and-die instinct, as are men.  They may use men in order to produce children or for material gain or other selfish reasons.  They may also want children to be able to rob the children of their life essence.  It is a vampire-like use of men and of children that is a fleshy type of animalistic nature found in some men and women.

 

4) LOOKING FOR LOVE.  Instead of going within to explore the forces acting through them, many women simply accept the power and control they have over men as 'natural'.  This is often expressed as 'the need to be needed.'  Unfortunately it is a big ego trip, not a loving relationship. Women need to see that the love they desire they must first feel from within.  Only then will they be able to discern which men can provide real love and which ones cannot.  Women who love their fathers, in general, are much better at discerning which men are real lovers, and not just users.

 

5) CONFUSION ABOUT WHAT IS LOVE.  Many women are confused about the masculine and feminine types of love.  Selfish women think that love is about having enough sex, hugs and kisses, and often about having someone to take care of them.  This might be called ‘sugar daddy love’. 

            These women, who are plentiful, strongly dislike the tough, more masculine love that strips away their illusions and exposes the truth to them on a regular basis.  When the process of exposing illusions begins in a relationship, these women flee or avoid seeing by accusing their partners of not being 'loving' and kind.  (See Kalil Gibran's poem, 'On Love', in The Prophet).  Few women, in fact, really appreciate a tough, strong, direct, honest and aware man in their life, sad to say.  These women are blessed and usually are the ones who excel in life easily as they have the support of true love behind them.

 

6) EARLY TRAINING.   Most women's 'training' begins at a young age.  Fathers, with few exceptions, are typical men - weak or violently strong.  Young girls know they are not being loved properly, but do not understand what is happening.  Some fathers are afraid of their attraction for their pretty daughters, so they become distant, which can send a message that a girl is not pretty or lovable.  Others are too huggy and touchy, which can send other messages, while a few resort to molestation or even incest because they do not know how to love a woman any other way, or for other reasons.

Often a girl's mother is prideful and willful, and secretly or openly resents her husband.  The mother's attitudes are often carefully cultivated in the daughter, as a way to 'get back' at the father.  This is all done quite unconsciously. 

            Women have a strong need to be loved in a proper way, and the spoiling and/or cruelties experienced in childhood cause many women to feel intense resentment toward her parents.  So powerful is this resentment, that until such a woman gets in touch with it, her secret resentment always colors all future relationships.  This secret hatred causes many women to feel guilty, and many try to ‘make up’ for it by being extra kind and nice toward men - going along when they should not.

            Identity Exchange.  Many times a mother will exchange identities with a daughter.  The mother gives the daughter a masculine identity that she acquired from her mother, and takes the feminine identity of the daughter, which she secretly desires.  It is a sick way to regain her innocent child-like self by stealing it from a daughter.  This is all done completely unconsciously, but it will affect a young girl and on into adulthood until she begins to do the proper meditation exercise or connects with a godly man who helps her to correct herself and forgive her parents and everyone else who helped upset her early in life.

 

7) ETHERIC NEED. Some women crave a substance or chemical that men make in the prostate gland, I am told.  It attracts them to sex and men for reasons they do not understand.  Virgins, of course, are not aware of this need, but once they have sex and receive a man’s sexual fluid, they are often ‘hooked’ on men, to some degree or another.

            Also, most women do not realize that men are attracted to a frequency that women carry.  They think it is their good looks or something else, and this misleads them into thinking they are more beautiful or loving than they really are.  So they get married or get into relationships and the truth becomes evident that the man wants the female body around, but does not appreciate the woman behind it, and this is disturbing to most women.

 

8) ANATOMY.  Women tend to be higher in copper and lower in zinc.  This can make many of them more spacy, ungrounded, gullible and more emotional than men.  This often works against the women and clouds their thinking in every area of life, including relationships.

            Women are also more yin in Chinese medical terms.  Other anatomical differences include the ovaries are further apart from one another, and this may make women less centered.  Also, the ovaries are higher up on the body, which is less grounded.  These anatomical differences all make the woman more yin in Chinese medical terms, which means more flighty, less centered and grounded, and less able to think clearly, especially at this time in history.  For much more on this interesting topic, read Yin And Yang Healing and Yin Disease on this site.

 

            Anger in women.  According to Roy Masters, anger is a basic problem of most all women.  After all, they are the target of men’s dark thoughts of sexual conquest from the time of their birth, sadly.  They are also the target of other women’s jealousy in many cases, especially if they are attractive.  Also, because women are not imprinted to the opposite sex so they have less sexual identity confusion.  This increases their awareness a lot.  But this allows them to see how stupid and even evil are men who pursue them just for sex, or mainly for it.  All this makes them angry, since they want to be loved for who they are.  Women tend to react to their own anger in several ways:

 

Š           Some women become seductresses.  They take advantage of men's weakness and enjoy manipulating men.  A seductress controls by flattery and catering to male sexual weakness.  Many men enjoy and even demand their women be seductive.  These men enjoy falling to the temptation, which they call 'falling in love'.
            Women are naturally seductive for men due to the reasons explained above about animal magnetism, but many do not understand this.  Many women fool themselves into thinking they are just innocent maidens who enjoy dressing up, fixing their hair and doing thousands of other things to lure and manipulate men.  These women enjoy the sense of power and superiority they have over men.
            In fact, however, this is just a way they avoid looking at their own weakness of having given in to resentment and hatred.

            Some women do not like the power the men give them, but their own egos cause them to accept the power anyway.  Although men often encourage these roles, women also feel strangely secure in them.  While things may begin innocently enough, the woman eventually begins to resent the man's weakness for her, even though she enjoys the control she has over him.  This principle explains why some women will even stay with a violent man - she can still be in control even though her power is only that she can provoke him to violence.  Often, women blame men for these problems, not realizing their part in creating the situation.

Š           Some women become too kind and submissive.  They are often taken advantage of by angry or violent men.  Sometimes these women stay with a violent man because they secretly feel superior to the brute.

Š           Some women deal with their anger by becoming hardened or even aggressive.  This may be a positive step toward solving their spiritual problem on their own.  However, unless they deal with the source of their anger, many become domineering or ‘tough’.  It is a cover-up that may work for a while, but leads to illness and depression.  They repress their feminine side, which reduces their happiness and can make them less attractive as a companion.
            These women also become threatened by truly strong men, who would challenge their egos.  They often gravitate to weak men who won’t challenge them, but whom they resent for their weakness.  In other words, many women resent weak men, but they want them because they are afraid of strong, secure men.  This is a difficult dilemma for many women.
            The answer for them is not to abandon their masculine side, but to recover the feminine aspect to complement and balance it.  Unfortunately, few women understand their basic problem of greater spiritual awareness than their men that has led them to anger. 

Š           Some women assume a ‘mothering’ role.  It satisfies the male ego and is a subtle way to be in control of a man.  A woman can feel strangely secure in this role, although most secretly resent it.

Š           Some women take on other roles, like the prostitute or whore, or become nuns and celibates, or go into business to forget that they are confused about men and relationships.

 

What Can Women Do?

 

            The first step is to understand the above thoroughly.  Many women just give up, which is a shame.  Meditation can help one become aware of unconscious forces.  Conflicts and expectations diminish and relationships miraculously improve.  Eventually, women need to stop hating men.  Learning patience is required.  They must see that resentment only hurts them and absolutely prevents real love from coming through.

            Women must beware of seeing themselves as 'simple, innocent maidens'.  While this may be true of a very few, it is rare.  Often there are other motives one may not be aware of, such as enjoying being worshiped (often called loved).  Women need to trust their common sense and not compromise principles for any reason.  This means insist on real love, accepting no substitutes or excuses.  Do not settle for less.  As women begin to explore the magnitude of unconscious forces playing with their minds, they can better forgive their parents, particularly their fathers.  They will see that real love was absent because her parents were unable to provide it, not because they did not care for her.  Fathers and mothers were victims themselves and did their best.

            A common trap for women is giving up their principles and what they knows is right for some form of glory or power provided by a man.  It is simple to become addicted to this power, so easily is it obtained.  Women need to see it will only bring unhappiness in the end.   Seeing this at every moment, they can give up the undeserved control and power that most men will hand to them.

            To manipulate unaware men to get what one wants is an ever-present temptation.  It can also make one resent what one sees that men can not see.  A spiritually-oriented woman should feel that something is very wrong if a man is cruel or if he caters to her too much.  Either of these is an indication she is not dealing with an aware man.

            Another temptation is spiritual pride ‑ using one's greater awareness to control a man in order to make him over in one’s image of how he should be.  This is spiritually incorrect, as much as one might rationalize it, and will lead to unhappiness.  Men have to find God and truth on their own.­  Many times woman's love for a man is to be patient with him, provided he continues to make progress in his spiritual growth.

            Many women marry expecting to be loved, and are disappointed.  Patience can help them see that sex, flattery or control are not love.

 

FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN

 

            The need to be needed, so often touted in psychology books, attracts both men and women to needy rather than fulfilled partners.  By feeling needed, one gains ego satisfaction, but often resents the clinging, weakling nature of the needy partner.  The 'need to be needed' stops real love because such a person cannot accept love.  He or she only accepts problems and needs, which can be resented and/or 'remedied'.  From this one derives a false sense of worth and goodness.  It is a subtle ego trip.

            Love is not need.  A discerning man or woman makes sure a potential partner at least has a good chance of becoming emotionally independent.  Some need is normal, however, as otherwise few would want a relationship.

            A potential partner who does not fall 'head over heels' in love may become a better partner than one who does.  The more relaxed prospect  may just be more independent,­ a benefit in the long run.  If someone is madly in love with you one week, he or she is likely to fall madly in love with someone else next week.  Beware!

            Both men and women need to explore willfulness.  It needs to be observed and slowly replaced with God's Will.  Otherwise it sours relationships.

            Unaware men often appear 'strong' and 'masculine' on the surface.  Others are very wealthy and hard-working – but this may be a compensation for their emotional or spiritual weakness.  Unaware women may be beautiful.  Both men and women need to look below the surface so as not to be deceived by appearances.   It is wiser for men and women to remain single than be with the wrong partner.

            Sometimes one picks a partner whom one secretly knows is not as aware as oneself so that one can feel superior and safe.  One knows one will not be loved properly and therefore does not have to experience the transforming and sometimes disturbing power of true love.  This love force can change one in ways that would threaten or destroy the ego self. 

 

MODERN-DAY ROLE REVERSAL

 

     Today role reversal is very common.  Some of this is a healthy sharing of responsibilities and experimentation with economic arrangements to provide more freedom and flexibility.  However, it can become exaggerated and often leads to physical and mental illness.

            Causes for role reversal include biochemical and nutritional imbalances that affect the sex hormones.  This in turn leads to behavioral changes.  Mineral imbalances including zinc deficiency, and copper and cadmium toxicity can play a role.  These are very common today.  Pesticides and other environmental chemicals often mimic estrogen and have hormonal effects.  Female hormones fed to livestock to fatten them end up in dairy and meats and affect hormonal balance.  Occasionally, genetic problems cause hormonal imbalances leading to role reversal.

            Identity exchange, mentioned earlier, is another important cause of role reversal.  Most commonly, a mother steals her daughter’s feminine identity and replaces it with a male identity she has received that she does not want.  A father may implant a feminine identity in a male child, stealing his masculinity to replace his that was lost many years before.  This occurs unconsciously, but quite often.  To see it requires meditation or other techniques to enhance awareness.  It is often a hidden cause of resenting parents.

 

WHAT IS THE SOLUTION FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN?

 

            Awareness is the answer.  According to Roy Masters, and others, enhancing your awareness is a continuous process, not a one‑time event.  It requires surrendering the ego will, repeatedly, which permits awareness  to enter.  One can then see the truth and act on what one sees and knows to be correct.

            Submitting the ego will or lower will requires self-discipline and may cause unpre­dictable changes in one's life.  Friendships may be exposed for what they really are and one's entire way of living may need to change.  Selfish or weak men and women will recoil from such a process.  Like being chiseled by a master sculptor, it will have its painful moments.  The most difficult part is realizing over and over how suggestible, programmed and hypnotized one can be.

 

WHAT IS THE PROCESS FOR SUBMITTING ONE'S WILL?

 

            Submitting the ego will has little to do with doing good deeds, being nice or attending religious services.  These can serve to teach one about the process, although some organized religions have perverted things terribly and often cause more confusion.  The process is beyond religion and has to do with a simple four-step process that is discussed in a separate article.  It begins with desire, followed by intention, which is just sustained desire.  This is followed by allowing and then surrender, which leads to joy.

            Surrender itself is an increase in awareness that brings a feeling of "Oh, now I see what I've unconsciously been doing or been part of".  It brings its own resolution or change.  There is no hesitation - one just stops doing what one was doing because the truth of the whole matter is revealed.

            This must occur with one's entire being and with complete sincerity.  Nothing less will do.  Actually, one only asks for surrender and it is given when one is ready.  It can not be forced or willed because it is beyond the human will.

 

MEDITATION AND SURRENDER

 

            Surrender often occurs through sheer heartache or physical collapse, learning by one's mistakes.  It can be accomplished more quickly through meditation and other techniques.

            Roy Masters also suggests a particular observation-meditation exercise, which he says he did spontaneously as a child.  It is a simple, but precise technology that has been taught for thousands of years, in fact.  I have modified it somewhat to make it more powerful, I believe, by simply focusing on moving energy downward from the head to the feet.  The advantages are discussed in an article entitled Downward Motion and Healing.

 

TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS

 

            Mr. Masters says a continuum exists between unconscious and fully conscious relationships.

 

  1) UNCONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP.  For the unaware, relationships are a battleground with ego-to-ego fighting, a battle of wills and much concern with who is right, instead of what is right.   Through  disillusionment and unhappiness, hopefully the partners will be impelled to 'wake up'.  This is the most common type of relationship. 

            This is a relationship between two egos.  The ego roles, which may alternate back and forth, include overpowering the other through intimidation of some kind, or flattering and catering to the other in order to gain one's ends.  This type of relationship tends to be rocky, with one of three outcomes.  Either:

 

- The real issues are avoided and an uneasy truce is called, or

- Issues come up and the partnership survives and overcomes, or

- The relationship ends - usually with both parties unhappy, blaming, or at least confused as to what went wrong.

 

2) SEMI-CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP.  For those who are slightly more aware of their own ego needs and desires, one can enter into a relationship consciously, knowing what one is getting into, knowing there is a spiritual aspect to work through.  To succeed requires under­standing the necessity for submission of the ego will.  It is helpful if the relationship has a spiritual purpose that is greater than either of the partners.

            Some people going into a second marriage, or who have waited long enough to watch their friends go through misery and divorce and who have searched their own souls a bit, can experience  this type of marriage.  Some happiness is assured if commitment is present.  However, a semi-conscious marriage still leaves much to be desired.  Both partners will not enjoy it much of the time as one or the other or both still has much to learn.

 

3) RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FRIENDS.  Finally, a small percentage of people have worked their way back to a proper relationship with the creator.  These people can experience what he calls a marriage of friends that is harmonious - the ideal one thinks of.  This is a relationship between two aware beings, a loving partnership in which each supports the other and their love overflows into the world.

            Such a couple becomes a great force for good.  They avoid wasting energy in conflicts and disputes.  Each brings a unique perspective to the relationship that enhances it.  This type of marriage is rare, but an ideal to strive for.  The other types of marriage can move toward a marriage of friends with time and effort.

 

WHY MARRIAGE AND NOT CASUAL ARRANGEMENTS?

 

            Many people opt for casual arrangements instead of marriage.  Perhaps they had a negative experience with marriage or fear commitment.  However, Roy Masters say that if two people live together, they are married energetically, whether or not they sign papers.  Their chakras and subtle bodies blend due to their physical contact, affecting one another.

            Spiritually, commitment is most important in order to let go of ego traits.  Otherwise there is a strong tendency to split up when deeper issues arise and the going gets tough.  While splitting up is alright, if the lessons are not learned one often finds oneself in another relationship with the same type of person, dealing with the same issues over again.  It is best to make a deliberate commitment, understanding that any relationship goes deeper than living arrangements or signing papers.

 

CASUAL SEX

 

            Casual sex starts any relationship on the wrong foot, on a physical basis rather than a spiritual one.  Animal forces are aroused, which tend to crowd out common sense so that one may become involved with someone with whom one has little in common beyond physical desire.

            In fact, both partners lose with casual sex.  The woman may become pregnant and both become somewhat nutritionally depleted from fluid loss.  Both often spread horrible diseases, though our society and medical profession discount this fact on a daily basis.  Also, subtle but powerful energy exchanges occur during sex that make some people depressed.  Some tend to steal energy in the phenomenon called Energetic Vampirism, discussed in a separate article.

            Mr. Masters suggests going slowly with sex.  By waiting a while, one of two outcomes occur.  The other may go away.  Such a person is not worth bothering with and would only be trouble in the future.  The other possibility is the other will not mind too much.  Those that wait for sex for at least six month and maybe much longer may also gain the respect of the other, who will understand the principles in this discussion.  This bodes well for the relationship.

            Marriage is the arena where sexual desire can be worked through.  It is fine as long as the spiritual basis of marriage is intact.  If not, sex becomes a subtle form of mutual use or abuse ‑ mutual ego‑stroking, mutual rape, in a sense (see the Rape article), and a kind of indulgence that takes the partners further away from spirituality.

            One is here on earth to wake up, and to transform and develop oneself into a different kind of being that is not subject to the forces of death and decay that are the fate of most.  Regular sex and especially casual sex and romance tend to pull us away from this purpose.

 

CHILDREN

 

            Many people have children for incorrect reasons.  This is a major cause of problems between parents and children.  Common reasons for having children include:

 

Š           To ‘enrich' one’s life.  This often means one’s life is empty of meaning and that having children will somehow improve the situation.  It may, but one may tend to make the child’s life empty as well, or live through the child which causes conflicts.

Š           Feeling that one is 'supposed to', and will be the oddball if one does not.

Š           To carry on the family line or name.

Š           To hold a marriage together that is in difficulty.

Š           To have someone to take care of you in one’s old age.

Š           To see what one can produce (good looks, sports ability, intelligence, etc).

Š           To have power and control over a helpless little child (to have someone to push around).

Š           To regain a sense of innocence by stealing it from a child.

 

            In summary, many people have children to extend their ego, like buying a new car or house.  This does violence to the child, who is basically an object of use by the parents.  The temptation to 'use' a child for egotistical purposes is almost insurmountable, because the child is so helpless, malleable and dependent.  Here are a few common misconceptions about children, according to Roy Masters:

 

Š           One must clarify one’s meaning when stating that children love their parents.  It is a specific type of love that must not be confused with the love of the Creator, for example.
            Children are DEPENDENT upon parents.  They need their parents, so they cling and do as they are told.  Need and clinging are not love.  It is true that uncorrupted children have a sweet and helping nature, but this is not the same as mature love.

Š           Parents often confuse their ego need for their children with love.  This need, which they call 'love', violates and destroys the souls of the children.   It is like the 'love' that the wolf feels for the sheep - they are his potential meals.    In many sick ways, parents feed off of or live through their children, draining them of their initiative and even their physical health.  This results in juvenile delinquency, promiscuity, depression, illness, drugs, teen suicide and other problems of children.

 

            A vicious cycle commonly occurs.  Most children are used and psychologically violated by their parents and others, often all in the name of love.  They grow up confused ,believing that this abuse is love.  They do unto their children what was done unto them.

            Corrupting the souls of children usually occurs by a combination of spoiling and cruelty.  Some parents may use one of these methods more than the other.  Either tends to destroy the child's sense of values and self-esteem.  Mothers tend to spoil children more than fathers because women are physically weaker and emotionally closer to the children.  However, there are plenty of exceptions.

            Cruelty or spoiling reduce the child’s sense of control over his or her own life.  This is the hidden goal of excessive praise or criticism.  The child’s reduced control is the parent’s increase in control.  The child then becomes more subject to the parent’s neurotic or even psychotic value system.  Also, parents are able to steal the child’s life force when the child is out of control.  The same mechanisms operate in school, at work and in interpersonal and political realms.

           

            Oedipal Complexes.  Many fathers are sexually attracted to their daughters.  Some flirt or molest their daughters, while others become distant or cold to fend off or run away from their sexual desires for their daughters.  Mothers can react to their sons in similar ways.  This often damages parent-child relationships in unusual ways.  Once again, becoming aware of the problem is the first step to resolving these conflicts.

 

              Taking out one’s frustration on one’s children.  Parents who resent their spouse often take out their frustration on the children who are easier targets.  This has a castrating effect on males.  On daughters it produces low self-esteem, depression and often hatred of men or even of women.

            In particular, mothers who unconsciously resent their husbands subtly deprecate male children, while building up the egos of their daughters.  This produces the 'princess' trait in women, and it often produces wimpy or violent men.

            If a parent does not receive love from a spouse, often he or she, usually, will unconsciously accept the dependence of the children as love, and thereby rob them of their selfhood.

            Parents are not supposed to mold children in their image.  True love allows a child to be free to grow up strong and self-assured.  This will only happen when father and mother are fulfilled in their own lives and clear about their own relationships, particularly the relationship with the Creator.  This is always the most important relationship to work on and with.

            If one does not already have children, think hard about one’s motives for wanting children.  If one already has children, realize that the real purpose of having children is to provide a stable and happy home for a developing soul until that soul can live on its own.

            Having children is also a powerful way to learn about oneself.  Unfortunately, many parents would rather 'put out the light' in the children than listen and learn from them.  Parents need lots of patience with children.  This is the beginning of love.  As with man-woman relationships, ­parents' love for children must include protecting children from the parents' own selfishness, so that only love comes through.

 

CONCLUSIONS ABOUT ROY MASTER’S MATERIAL

 

            Some people will find the above rather negative.  However, to find the truth, sometimes one must look at all sides of an issue.  So I hope this article does not seem negative at all.  By seeing what is not love, we move closer to understanding what is real love.  Then relationships can become a great source of joy, power and goodness in the world.

            Also, as one’s personal and interpersonal relationships improve, I have not doubt our community, national and international relationships will similarly improve, creating a more stable and safe world in which to live.  In fact, I believe that every effort to create peace, love and prosperity for all in the world will fail - until more people learn how to create peace and love in their own small world of personal, interpersonal and spiritual relationships.

 

OTHER INTERESTING TOPICS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS:

 

1. FAITHFULNESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

 

            This is an interesting topic.  If I may be a bit philosophical, men need to be faithful in a sexual way, in most cases.  This is more of a problem for most men than for most women.

            Women need to be faithful in a slightly different way – to keep loving their mates, no matter if some of the fire or love has gone out of the relationship.  By staying with the mate, it can often be revived, but many women simply lose interest and turn their attention to raising the children, buying gifts for themselves and others, or other pursuits.  This is also a form of adultery.

            Neither partner should keep loving the other if there is abuse, particularly physical violence, but also severe emotional abuse or vampirism.

 

2. SPECIAL AND HOLY RELATIONSHIPS 

 

            In certain texts, a distinction is made between special relationships and holy relationships.  The former are relationships based on fear, guilt or ego needs for security, control, domination or possession.  These lead to unhappiness. 

            The latter are relationships based on love that comes from within or from God.  In other words, holy instants and holy relationships are not about “getting” anything from another.  They are about giving love, which is our essence.  Seeking love outside oneself, therefore, will always bring frustration.

            Love, in this context, is not a feeling, sexual attraction, security, nor is it possessing another.  It is allowing the Love Of The Creator to flow to oneself and then out to others.  First one must receive it in order to give it.

            To give love however, one must first learn to receive it.  Giving love without first receiving it leads to burnout.  Each partner must respect the others’ level of fullness of the Creator’s love, and not demand love.  Love does not compel.  Love allows all things, embraces all things, accepts all things, and by so doing overcomes and transcends all things.

            This topic and approach to relationships is explored more in a separate article entitled The Real Self.

           

3. LICENSED MARRIAGES ARE RELATIVELY NEW

 

            Licenses give official permission to do something that is otherwise forbidden.  Until 150 years ago, there were no licensed marriages in America, and fewer in other nations as well.  Marriage was an agreement between two people that did not involve the government.  Today this is called a common law marriage.  The marriage agreement was written in the family bible and that was about all.

            The first marriage license in America was supposedly issued after the Civil War to a racially mixed couple.  The English Common Law, which was in force in America and still is to a degree, forbade inter-racial marriage.  In order to marry, the couple sought special permission from the government. 

            The concept of licensing marriages slowly grew in America.  Government licenses offer certain legal protections for partners, but also make the government a third party in the marriage with certain rights.

            For example, if the government is involved in your marriage through a license and birth certificates for your children, if someone reports that you are abusing your children, the government can come into the home and remove the children.  Sadly, many common behaviors can be considered abuse, even forcing a child to do homework.  One may be presumed guilty until proven innocent, and the incident goes on one’s permanent record, even if no conviction takes place.

            It is a little odd to ask a bureaucratic agency, perhaps hundreds of miles away, for permission to conclude a sacred contract between two people.            Marriage licenses and birth certificates may also allow the government to force you to vaccinate your children, or force your children to have other questionable medical procedures the government deems “good”.  In fact, recently the news reported that parents have lost their children to foster care because they wanted their children to obtain alternative cancer treatments and refused orthodox medical treatment for a child’s cancer.

            Giving too much power to the state is something to think about before you run and get a marriage license.  I don’t see the need for it, although it may protect a spouse from debts, but not necessarily.

 

4. A TWO-STEP SYSTEM OF MARRIAGE

 

            This is another interesting topic about man-woman relationships.  It is discussed in a separate, very interesting article entitled A Two-Step Marriage Process.

            It is basically a two-step process to help a couple come together in a meaningful relationship without risking having children, and giving any relationship a legalistic type of framework for the protection of both participants.  Please read this article if you are considering a man-woman relationship at any age.

 

5. DEEP LOVING RELATIONSHIPS

 

            This topic concerns more esoteric aspects of man-woman relationships that will be of interest to most people.  Some of the information borders on what is called tantra, an ancient yogic system of relationships for healing. 

            However, tantra today has been bastardized into a method to increase sexual pleasure, and little else.  Many books on the subject are available in the book stores.  At one time it was more about healthy relationships and actually much less about sexuality.  Some of the information is philosophical, and much is very practical.  This topic is explored in two articles on this website, Deep Loving Relationships – 1 and Deep Loving Relationships – 2.

 

6. RELATIONSHIPS VIEWED ENERGETICALLY IN TERMS OF THE BODY’S SEVEN ENERGY CENTERS

 

            This interesting topic views man-woman and possibly other relationships in terms of the energetic interaction between the people.  It classifies relationships into seven basic styles or types.  It can be a very helpful article to help resolve certain issues and smooth your relationships.  It is discussed in the article entitled Love And Relationships – An Energetic View.

 

7. OTHER ARTICLES ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS ON THIS WEBSITE

 

            These include:

Loving Versus Destructive Relationships

Love, Will And Its Relation To The Law Of Cause And Effect

Male-Female Blending Exercises For Healing

The Facts Of Life, Especially For Unmarried People

Sex and Mental Development

Sexual Dysfunctions And Their Correction

Masturbation

How To Be More Sexy

Sex Is Not Beautiful

Letting Go

Giving And The Life Of Service

How To Get Along With Others

Survival Guide For Planet Earth For Young People, Especially

Integrity

Non-Violent Communication

How People Are Influenced Mentally

The Indigo Children

Suckers or Energy Vampires Versus Real Men And Women

Obstetrics And Nutritional Balancing Science

Sexual Molestation And Its Healing

Female Genital Mutilation Is Real

Contraceptive Methods And Your Health

Women’s Fear Of Men

Differences Between Men And Women

Poles And Climbers

 

 

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