HEALING RAPE

by Lawrence Wilson, MD

Rape is not easy to get over, and some would say it is never completely cleared from the body and mind. In spite of this, however, millions of women, and some men who were raped, are able to lead quite normal lives. This article discusses some techniques that can amazingly undo many of the effects of rape at the physical, emotional and other levels. Among the most critical are:

1. A nutritional balancing program. Other types of nutrition programs, herbs, homeopathy and others do not work nearly as well for some reason.

2. Chiropractic or osteopathic manipulation. This is vital in all cases as well.

3. Natural methods to heal sexually-transmitted diseases. This can also be life-saving in some cases, and is explained below.

4. Forgiveness, gratitude, prayer, church-related activities, and letting go of victimhood.

5. Counseling.

6. Ladies, don’t be a sensual bitch. They get raped every time, over and over.

7. Other methods that people report are very healing.

Let us explore each of these methods in depth.

1. A NUTRITIONAL BALANCING PROGRAM

The unique and essential features of a nutritional balancing program always include:

a. Loads of rest, including going to bed by 9 PM each day, or even earlier, if possible.

b. A fairly strict diet that is about 70-80% cooked vegetables and some animal-quality protein daily. You must eat red meat – lamb or chuck (a rather cheap and fatty cut of beef) at least three times a week or maybe more, at first, if you were dried out or whipped.

c. Drinking up to 3 quarts of water daily – but only spring water and no other type!

d. Specific supplements, and not other supplements.

e. Two detoxification procedures that are often amazingly helpful – coffee enemas and near infrared lamp saunas.

f. A particular type of meditation.

. Daily foot reflexology.

Why is nutritional balancing so powerful? Many of the physical effects of rape such as fatigue, depression, anxiety, weakness, irritability and others have a nutritional basis. I know this because when a person’s body chemistry is properly strengthened and balanced as described below, many of the symptoms and effects of rape disappear. This is regardless of whether a person goes for counseling, or does any other type of rehabilitation or therapy.

In fact, I have not found a more powerful and simple biochemically-based method to undo traumas than a complete nutritional balancing program. This is a subject all in itself that is discussed in a separate article called Trauma Release on this website.

The reasons that nutritional balancing may work so well might include:

1. The body and mind are subtly malnourished before the rape, and therefore cannot fully process the trauma. A fully functioning brain and body are most helpful to process any type of trauma.

2. Depletion of the vital sexual fluids of a woman, or a man, for that matter, definitely induces certain nutritional imbalances that are not easy to correct simply with a diet and/or nutritional supplements. In other words, a rape is a terrible nutritional insult to the body, although it may offer no obvious physical symptoms other than perhaps fatigue, irritability, depression, anxiety, weakness or other vague symptoms.

3. Aspects of rape such as sexually transmitted diseases may further deplete a person nutritionally, as this is often one of their effects.

Why nutritional balancing, and not other nutritional approaches? I am not sure of all the reasons, but clients report that this is the truth. Possible reasons why a nutritional balancing program works best might include:

1. Making the body more yang. This may sound esoteric, but it is extremely important. Yang means more whole, contracted, warmer and more balanced today in most cases. It is accomplished with a diet of mostly cooked vegetables, not raw ones, red meat a few times weekly, some whole grains but not wheat products ( which are more yin today), and strict avoidance of all fruit, fruit juices and all other sugars and sweet foods including rice milk, soy milk, rice Dream and many others.

It also includes avoiding artificial sweeteners as well. The correct supplements are also essential to help make the body more yang. For example, too much vitamin C, MSM, herbs and many other supplements make the body much too yin and will ruin any nutritional balancing program, no matter how “healthy” or “beneficial” they are.

2. Increasing vitality. This is related to making the body more yang, but is absolutely not the same. It has more to do with balancing the basic mineral ratios in the body tissues, as revealed on a properly performed hair mineral analysis. It also has to do with eliminating two dozen or more toxic metals from thousands of enzyme binding sites and restoring proper minerals in these enzyme systems. It also has to do with removing hundreds, if not thousands of toxic chemicals from the body.

As this is done, the overall enzyme strength, vitality and what is called adaptive energy of the body is restored. Then the body can heal many, if not all illnesses, infections including sexual diseases, mental blockages and more. This process takes a few years in many cases, although most people start to feel better within a few months or even less.

3. Nutritional balancing is strictly a whole systems approach. That is, it does not employ remedies of any kind. These may give relief of certain symptoms, but they usually unbalance the overall body system.

In contrast, a whole systems approach to healing focuses on the entire body and mind to rebalance it and strengthen it. As this occurs, vitality increases and the body is able to handle individual symptoms and conditions. It is thus a reversal of the usual healing approach used in conventional medicine, counseling, nutrition, homeopathy and other clinical sciences.

4. Nutritional balancing appears to cause a decrease in chaos in the entire system, which powerfully facilitates healing. Chaos theory is a modern aspect of systems analysis and how to deal with complex systems.

This approach to healing cannot be forced or imposed on the whole system. It can only be supported and facilitated by constantly rebalancing the major mineral ratios and levels at the tissue level, as evidenced by the readings on a hair tissue mineral test.

In this way, a properly designed nutritional balancing program will slowly build vitality, remove all toxic substances from the body, and renourish the brain to improve mental clarity, processing speed, processing ability and other cognitive and emotional qualities of a person.

This process is called Etheric Reset, and is discussed in a separate article. It is indeed an exciting process and journey to enable anyone who has undergone rape or other traumas to heal it at the deepest level.

5. Stress release. From the perspective of systems theory, nutritional balancing is a more profound method to break vicious cycles in as many places as possible to free the mind from its “positive feedback loops” that keep one stuck or focused on the past in a negative way.

This approach does not require that a person recall lots of facts about a rape, for example. What needs to be known consciously will surface in its own time. Thus it is not an analytical approach like most counseling. Instead, nutritional balancing may be called a body-centered and bioenergetic therapy that works quite automatically if one just follows a nutritional balancing program faithfully. One’s energy level just keeps rising and rising, slowly pushing all traumas, not just the rape, out of the body system.

6. Cybernetics and rape. Rape interferes with the normal communication and control systems of the human body. Cybernetics is the science of communication and control in the human being and machine. It is known as computer science, but it is also about how the nervous system functions.

Nutritional balancing, with its emphasis upon a healthful, safe lifestyle and diet, addresses nervous system communication issues head on, without the need for most remedies that often weaken a person after a rape, no matter how nutritious or healthful they may seem to be. Most remedies are simply too yin in Chinese medical terms, after a difficult rape situation.

Several articles on this website such as Introduction To Nutritional Balancing describe nutritional balancing in more detail. To begin a program, click here.

MORE DETAILS ABOUT NUTRITIONAL BALANCING

Here are a few simple things to do immediately that will start the healing process.

1. Realize that rape depletes one nutritionally in all cases through a loss of vital sexual fluids, psychological shock and perhaps in other ways. In other words, in large part, the devastating effects of rape are nutritional, though they may be subtle, at times.

2. Eat 70% cooked vegetables (no salads), and some animal protein every day.

3. Be sure to eat at least three or more portions of red meat each week. Lamb or beef are the best. This is quite essential in almost all cases. If you have difficulty eating red meat, here are few suggestions:

a. Try eating it alone or maybe with just one cooked vegetable. Do not mix it with a lot of food, especially grains or fruit. Just have two lamb chops, perhaps, or a small steak or a hamburger patty without the bun, for example.

b. Always take a digestive aid with it. The best contain ox bile and pancreatin. Take plenty of it – often 2 or 3 tablets are best.

c. Rest after eating red meat. Do not immediately resume your daily activities. Wait at least half an hour, if at all possible.

d. Eat it preferably at lunch time rather than at dinner or breakfast. Your digestion is strongest at this time. An exception is if you are at work and only have a short time to eat and no time to rest afterwards. In this case, it may be best to have it at dinner or at least after work, but not too late at night.

e. It is fine to have four or five smaller meals with the red meat as one of them. This is much better than eating one or two large meals, or snacking all day.

f. Beef jerky can be used as a nutritious red meat snack.

g. Never overcook meats of any kind – light cooking is best to kill the germs and that is about all that is needed.

h. Eggs are also good, but not as good as red meat a few times a week. Always cook eggs and meat lightly only. Do not hard boil eggs, for example, or bake them in quiche. Eat them soft boiled or poached only.

In addition, eat 3-4 cans of sardines weekly if you can tolerate them. Add mustard or mayonaisse if needed to make them more palatable. Any brand will work but the best are those with the skin and bones.

Also, avoid the nightshade vegetables (potatoes, tomatoes, eggplant and peppers) and avoid artichokes, mushrooms, okra and most celery as well, as these are too yin.

3. Avoid all wheat, fruit and sweets, and most bread. These foods will tend to make things worse.

4. Drink spring water only. Tap water is second best (carbon-filtered only), but not as good. Never drink distilled water, reverse osmosis water or alkaline waters, which are more yin and often low or deficient in minerals, and this cannot be fixed by adding minerals to them.

5. Use sea salt liberally on your food. Do not put salt in water, however, as this can be lethal.

6. While an individualized supplement and diet program based on a properly performed and correctly interpreted hair tissue mineral analysis is by far the best, here are some basic supplements that help most people to a degree.

Beware that some of these supplements will bring up your anger and rage, so always start slowly and gently with them. Those that bring up anger and other emotions the most are kelp, B-complex vitamins, selenium, copper, and at times taurine, zinc, vitamins C and E, and a product we use called Limcomin. The best tolerated products are sardines, adrenal and thyroid glandulars, and GB-3 or another digestive aid. These are needed and the body seems to do well with them. The others must be tailored to the individual or they can spark extreme anger and other emotional reactions as they undo the effects of rape and restore the brain and nervous system. Here are the basic products:

A. Calcium and magnesium: About 1000 mg calcium and about 600 to 650 mg of magnesium are all that are needed in most cases.

B. Kelp from Nature’s Way or Solaray (other brands may not work quite as well): 5000 to 6000 mg daily. This is a lot! Start with less and work up as you can. Take less if you feel badly on it. Many women report it is very helpful.

C. B-complex vitamins: about 50 mg per day of the B-complex vitamins are needed in most cases.

D. Vitamin C: 1000 mg daily. Do not be tempted to do more, even if it makes you feel better. It is too yin with more, in most cases, except maybe for a very short time.

E. Zinc: up to 120 mg daily. This can be very helpful in some, but not all cases. Reduce the amount if needed, as too much can worsen some cases of depression after rape.

F. Copper: This is variable. Most people who experience rape need about 4 or 5 mg daily. However, some may need less, and a few may need more.

G. Dried vegetable capsules (brands are many such as Endo-Veggies, or others): 6 to 9 capsules daily. However, stay away from any green food or vegetable capsules that have spirulina as chlorella as primary ingredients, and avoid those that have “fruit blends” as ingredients at all. This is very important, as these are not helpful as they are too yin.

H. Glandulars including adrenal, thyroid, and kidney: take 6 tablets or capsules daily if possible. If you feel jittery on them, take less.

I. If you do not want to eat 3 cans of sardines weekly, then you must take 1000 mg daily of mega-3 fatty acids and 5000 iu daily of vitamin D3.

J. Vitamin E: up to 400 iu daily. More is usually not helpful. This is not as critical as some of the others.

DO NOT TAKE OTHER VITAMINS, MINERALS, HORMONES OR CHELATION THERAPY. THESE ARE OFTEN NOT HELPFUL AND CAN BE DANGEROUS FOR RAPE VICTIMS BY FURTHER DEPLETING THEM NUTRITIONALLY IN SUBTLE WAYS.

VERY HELPFUL OR PERHAPS ESSENTIAL PHYSICAL PROCEDURES ASSOCIATED WITH NUTRITIONAL BALANCING

1. Infrared light sauna therapy. The use of a near infrared lamp sauna or even a far infrared sauna, though it is not as good as a lamp sauna, can relax you and help you heal much faster, in our experience. Use it preferably twice or even three times every day for about half an hour to 45 minutes. Never overdo, however, with more time or more sessions, as this can deplete other minerals in the body and make things worse. For more on this, read Sauna Therapy on this website. This article also has a link for free plans to build a near infrared light sauna for yourself.

2. Coffee enemas. For some reason, these are reported to be very helpful. They may replenish some nutrients, and they get rid of some toxins from the liver. Read Coffee Enemas for more on this important procedure.

3. Foot reflexology daily. You must press firmly or hard all over the foot. The reflex areas to the vagina and uterus are located below and behind the ankle bones, on both sides of both feet. Always do this part of the foot, too. Also, always rub the toes firmly, all over, and also rub the top of the feet as well. For more, read the article on this site entitled Reflexology.

4. The Roy Masters meditation, and no other. This is also essential, and you must use my modification of it, which just emphasizes sending energy downward from head to feet. You need not start with this, as it may be more difficult, but add it in, as it is very, very healing. Read the article on this site called Meditation For Healing.

2. CHIROPRACTIC OR OSTEOPATHIC MANIPULATION AND THE SPINAL TWIST DAILY

Rape always causes a pronounced twist or severe subluxation of the spine. This often produces obvious symptoms such as back pain, leg pain, stiffness, trouble walking or even standing, or perhaps neck tightness. However, even if no symptoms are obvious, rape always twists the spine in unusual ways. This may be due to the physical act itself, to a tensing of the body during a rape, or for other reasons such as nutritional imbalances that result from rape.

Correction is not that easy. It is essential that anyone who is raped visit a competent chiropractor or osteopath to attempt to restore and rebalance the spine. I say attempt to restore the spine because it is not easy. The spine cannot be corrected in one chiropractic or osteopathic visit, in my experience, and usually it persists for years. Many chiropractors and osteopaths are also afraid to work on women who were raped, as they don’t quite know how to undo the damage. The reason seems to be that the subluxations are deep, and often affect the entire spine. In this case, don’t worry. There is another method that is often better than any chiropractor, sadly, and it is described below.

The Daily Spinal Twist. This wonderful procedure is part of every nutritional balancing program. It is fully described in an article on this website entitled How To Help Correct Your Spine. Anyone who experiences rape must do it every day, preferably several times daily. Do it gently if you must, but do it. Slowly point the toes and stretch the spine a little more and more, and one day it will let go.

Do not worry about your back. Just keep doing the spinal twist procedure several times daily, stretching the spine gently as you can. One day it will let go. You must be doing the entire nutritional balancing program with it, however, as this will help you relax, rebuild and feel better about yourself as well.

3. NATURAL METHODS TO HEAL STDS

1. Freshly squeezed garlic juice for recent STDs. This is the best remedy I know of for early-stage sexually-transmitted infections from any cause at all, even an infected hot tub or toilet seat. It helps most of them, though not all.

To do it right, you will need the following:

a. Garlic. Buy at least 10 large, fresh garlic bulbs at the supermarket. They need not be organically grown, though they might be stronger that way.

b. A garlic press. These are sold at the supermarket, or in the kitchen section of a hardware or department store.

c. Measuring cup. You will need a 1-cup or 2-cup measuring cup or at least a mug or glass to hold the garlic juice.

d. Applicators. Get a dozen or so large Q-TipsÒ or cotton applicators. Or make some applicators by getting a dozen wooden sticks or even metal ends of large spoons or dinner knives, and buy a package of 1-inch cotton balls.

If you are making the applicators, wrap the wooden or metal sticks with a ball of cotton on the end. Glue the cotton to the stick, or perhaps hold it on firmly on with tight rubber bands. The cotton tip must be about 1 inch or 2 centimeters across to swab the vagina well.

5. Ideally, get hold of a vaginal speculum. It is not absolutely needed but makes things easier.

6. A powerful flashlight.

7. A Mirror. if you are doing it yourself, you will also need a good mirror, preferably on a stand so you can position it and let go of it.

Now you are ready to go. Separate the garlic bulb into cloves. You need not peel the garlic cloves. Squeeze the juice out with your garlic press. Squeeze it into a measuring cup or glass. You will need about 4 ounces or more.

Now you are ready to dip the cotton tip in the fresh garlic juice. You must dab the fresh juice liberally on the infected area of the vagina or other parts of the body. I do not know why it works so well, but it does. It is non-toxic, unlike antibiotics and anti-viral drugs, and it often works excellently. It must be applied several times daily in good amounts on the affected areas.

Proper use of fresh-squeezed garlic juice often requires a second person such as a female nurse who will examine the inside of the vagina with a powerful flashlight to find all traces of infected, abnormal or even just bruised tissue, and apply the garlic juice directly to these areas. One need not use massive quantities of garlic juice, as in a douche, and indeed this does not seem to work quite as well, anyway.

2. A complete nutritional balancing program can often eradicate sexually transmitted diseases, even those of long standing. This is more difficult than one may believe, as they all tend to become systemic and chronic with time. It often takes several years, in my experience, to eradicate them from the organs of the body, but it can be done. In fact, it occurs routinely if one follows all of the instructions, including daily coffee enemas and daily use of a near infrared lamp sauna and not other types of saunas.

4. MENTAL/RELIGIOUS/SPIRITUAL HEALING METHODS FOR RAPE

1. The correct type of mental concentration practice. We find that the Roy Masters concentration exercise with the modification of forcefully moving energy downward from the top of the head into the right hand, and later into both hands and both feet, is extremely helpful. Rape is a situation in which energy is moved upwards forcefully in most cases. This type of mental exercise, and only this type, reverses that direction and moves energy in a healthy downward direction. For more on this interesting topic, read Meditation For Healing and Downward Moving Energy And Healing on this website.

2. Religious prayer and religiously-based lifestyles. This can be very helpful for some women and men. Here are three ways people do this:

A. Many Christian churches, Jewish temples, Buddhist organizations and Muslim groups, among others, are willing and able to help those who have experienced rape. They provide excellent counseling, better than regular counseling in many ways. They may also help with medical services, employment, and even help single young women find a good mate. The person may be encouraged to eat red meat several times a week and to live a clean, wholesome lifestyle. One is encouraged to join the group, in most cases, and this can be a good idea.

A problem with a few Christian rape recovery programs. I do not mean to impugn the motives of anyone who seeks to assist others. However, I would warn against something called women’s private “touching groups”. This is an odd practice in which some churches tell women who have experienced rape that they should undress together in a very private and safe place, and take turns touching each other’s private parts, mainly for fun and mutual pleasure. The idea is that it is a kind of chummy, fun substitute for regular sex.

The problem is that it spreads disease terribly, as the women usually lick their finger and then touch another woman’s body with it. Also, some women report that it is too much sex and homosexual sex, and disgusting. I would warn against this practice, although some women clearly enjoy it.

B. Entering a convent or monastery. This is a very protected and controlled environment that helps some who have been through a rape. This can work well for some people. The problems with this solution are 1) it may be difficult to function normally in society, hold a job, etc. and 2) convents and monasteries have strict rules that one must follow.

However, if one is willing and able to follow the rules, this is definitely a safer environment in almost all cases.

C. Many people privately turn to God, the bible or other spiritual material after a rape for guidance. They do not need to join a particular church. Perhaps they read the bible on their own, or other spiritual books for comfort, insight and guidance on how to live and how to proceed. This can be very helpful for most people.

3. Learning about forgiveness and practicing it daily is always helpful. Forgiving does not mean condoning the behavior, nor does it mean that the woman did something wrong. It simply means that holding on to the trauma with its anger, hatred and resentment, is not worth it and only makes one worse. It also means that one accepts that we sometimes do not understand why such things happen.

One must make sure to forgive not only the rapist, but also others who were involved, such as a parent who should have protected one. For some reason, women often blame their mother in rape cases.

It also means forgiving all men, all penises, all sexuality, and even letting go of general anger toward the world. This is a tall order, I realize, but absolutely essential. Good counseling may help, especially if it is all about forgiveness, not about who did what and how horrible it was. This is a given and need not be discussed very much. Some counselors, however, believe in rehashing the horror and I find this is rarely helpful.

Among the most important person to forgive may be yourself. This may also be the most difficult. Many women continue to torture themselves asking why they let a certain man into their lives, why they attended a certain meeting or party that fateful night, why they dressed immodestly, and so on. It is best to learn your lessons, and move on. No one is perfect, you will find. Everyone makes mistakes. Instead of blaming yourself, be glad you are still alive to talk about it, try to help others, and not focus on your own misery. Others have it worse, no matter how bad your situation was or is.

Spiritual aspects of forgiveness. If possible, remember that you are not just a physical being. The body was raped, but the soul and the spirit remain pure, with God, untouched and as pure as ever. This is the truth, by the way, not just fancy words or phrases. This realization is often absolutely needed in order to complete the forgiveness process.

4. Letting go of victim thinking. An important and difficult step for many who experience a rape is to let go of all thoughts of victimhood. You may think this is crazy. “How can I think otherwise”, you may ask. You can.

You can learn to believe that God, or other forces greater than ourselves, are always in command of our lives and we are dependent upon Him or whomever is in charge such as the angels or Jesus, for our lives. So, occasionally a situation is brought to our lives that is not pleasant, for reasons we cannot understand but must somehow accept, as difficult as it may be. You may come to believe that your soul and your spirit somehow agreed to the rape, although the reasons why may not be clear right now.

This awareness must be learned in an honest, not a phony way, without feeling guilty and without brushing the whole episode aside and trying to bury it alive.

Letting go of the victim mentality is critical, at some juncture, because victims cannot forgive fully. One must leave the victim consciousness at the door, so to speak, and enter a realm of full awareness and full responsibility for your body and your actions, even if what happened does not make any sense to the logical mind.

You must also eventually learn that you are spirit, not body, at your core. Spirit is untouched, pure, whole, and not violated. You are here on earth to learn a few lessons and help others to live better lives as well. So it is time to get on with your mission and your life. Indeed, it is time to use your rape as a springboard to move you ahead much faster than you otherwise would have done.

When viewed this way, rape can move a woman or man forward in her life in wonderful ways. She or he may:

Ø Let go of stupid, dangerous, or perhaps superficial and flirty behaviors.

Ø Learn to appreciate life in new ways.

Ø Use the incident to assist others in some way. It might be by changing the rape laws to make punishment more harsh, or perhaps teaching young women and girls how to avoid these problems, or helping to teach parents how to protect their children properly.

Ø Learn to appreciate a good partner who will love you properly, but who might be boring, rather than dabble with the more exciting players and sexually aggressive ones who may have caused the rape.

Ø Many other wise and wonderful outcomes are available to those who make a conscious decision to forgive, move on, start life over in a better way.

4. Learning about gratitude and practicing it daily. This is also necessary and powerful to overcome rape, or any serious crime or trauma. Gratitude is the notion that it could have been worse, which is always the case.

One always has a choice to look on the dark side or the bright side of any incident or condition. You can harbor anger, feel sorry for yourself, or turn the anger inward and allow it to become depression. On the other hand, you can be grateful that you survived and can move on, and perhaps assist others to prevent such crimes and/or recover better.

5. COUNSELING

Counseling after a rape can be helpful for some people, but is usually not that helpful, according to some of our clients. It is usually excellent to confide in someone about a rape, but be careful whom you tell, whether it be a family member, friend or professional counselor.

For example, an incompetent counselor or unsympathetic friend or family member can make you feel worse. One client told me that after telling her counselor about her violent rape, the counselor questioned the truth of the story. The woman became so discouraged she decided she just could not tell anyone else about it and instead she just became depressed and withdrew from the world.

Another problem with some counselors or others you may talk with are those that encourage you to stay angry and even to exact revenge. While getting in touch with anger is good, holding onto anger and thinking thoughts of revenge can get a person killed, and certainly does not lead to forgiveness and full healing.

Christian counselors are often the best, but may need to be experienced to fully understand rape, so use caution with all counselors.

6. OTHER

1. Hugging or intimacy without orgasm is also helpful for some people.

2. Rebounding, using a rebounder or mini-trampoline, is also a helpful exercise, according to our clients.

3. The use of a vibration table or machine is also helpful in some cases. This is a small platform that one stands upon and holds on with a handle while the platform vibrates gently.

4. Walking each day slowly for about half an hour can be extremely helpful, according to women’s reports. I am not sure why. If you are afraid to walk alone, walk with a male friend.

PROBLEMS DURING THE HEALING OF RAPE

During the healing process, the following often occurs:

1. Intense anger surfaces that is very disturbing. Almost every person who experiences rape reports this. One may wish to kill the man who raped one, or kill all men, perhaps. One may be filled with murderous thoughts, and thoughts of revenge.

These feelings are normal and must be dealt with calmly. This does not mean to act on them. In most cases, they will go away as one heals at deeper levels.

2. One can become very tired, perhaps for months. This may have to do with processing the rape in the mind, and it may have to do with biochemical and nutritional adjustments. One must rest more at these times, and not try to just “push through” the fatigue, as this may not work well, and certainly slows progress.

3. You may develop temporary physical or emotional symptoms. Anger, as described above, is just one of them. You may retrace or experience other feelings, such as intense fear, anxiety, stomach aches, back aches or other symptoms. These may be directly related to the rape, or they can be adjustment symptoms as your body restores itself.

Regardless of the cause, they can be very annoying. While one is always free to visit medical doctors, I suggest first discussing such symptoms of all kinds with your nutritional balancing practitioner. Often medical drugs are not helpful or warranted. Most symptoms will pass in their own time if they are handled correctly. Reassurance is often all that is needed, along with perhaps natural remedies, at times, to reduce their intensity.

4. Details about a rape may surface that are disgusting or just plain horrible. Staying in denial and insisting that these things are not true or did not happen can, in fact, stop the healing process. One must just allow these details to surface and they will generally pass. One need not dwell on them or wallow in them, either. Just observe them, if possible, from a neutral place. The Roy Masters meditation exercise is excellent to assist this process.

5. Your relationships, family situation, job, friends or other things in your life may need to shift. A person that you thought was your friend may be revealed to be not so wonderful. Also, someone you avoided for years may need a visit, a phone call, or an apology, perhaps. Once again, not following through with what you come to realize will slow or stop your progress.

For example, in a few cases, a marriage needs to end, and this can be very difficult to handle. In a few cases, a relationship with a parent, a brother, or a sister needs to end or change. This, too, can be difficult to negotiate, but is often necessary to fully heal an old trauma. Counseling with a very qualified person may help you to navigate and negotiate these situations carefully and successfully.

WHAT CAN HUSBANDS AND BOYFRIENDS DO AFTER A PARTNER HAS BEEN RAPED?

Many clients say that they have only recovered because they have a sympathetic and understanding husband or partner. The most important things for a partner to do are:

1. Listen a lot.

2. Hugs are very, very needed and helpful.

3. Of course, keep loving your partner who was raped no matter how many diseases and how damaged she has become.

4. Help in other ways, such as taking over some responsibilities, and understanding that anyone who has been raped is usually terrified to go out alone, even to go to work alone. Therefore, adjustments in lifestyles may have to be made as a result.

5. Encourage and assist your partner to study this article and follow a nutritional balancing program and the other recommendations.

For much more information about rape, read the companion article to this one, entitled Rape.

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